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So… she’s pregnant?
First things first—stay calm. This is a big moment, and while it may feel overwhelming, you don’t have to make decisions alone. You have a partner who needs you now more than ever. It’s time to support her emotionally and physically, and we’ve got some tips to help you navigate the next steps together.

What to do:

Talk with her and listen.
Ignoring the situation or avoiding the conversation won’t make it go away. In fact, it will only make things harder for both of you. Have open and honest conversations about what’s going on, how you’re both feeling, and what the next steps might look like. Make sure she knows you’re in this together.

Talk with the people who matter.
It may feel like you should keep things quiet at first, but eventually, those who will be directly involved—parents, guardians, close friends—will need to know. They may be able to offer support or guidance, so don’t be afraid to lean on them.

Educate yourself.
Understanding what’s happening is key to being a good support partner. Learn about the physical changes she’s going through, as well as what’s happening with the baby at each stage of pregnancy. Attend her parenting or birthing classes with her, read up, or listen to informative podcasts. The more you know, the more confident you’ll feel in making decisions together.

Be honest with her—and with yourself.
This is a time to be open about your feelings. If you’re scared, anxious, or confused, let her know. Chances are, she’s feeling the same way, and sharing those emotions will bring you closer as you face the unknowns together.

Be there for her.
Support her in both big and small ways. Show her that no matter what happens, you’re making decisions as a team, and you’re in this together. She needs to know that she’s not alone.

Need more help?
This is a tough situation, and it’s normal to have questions. If you or your partner need support or have concerns, we’re here to help.

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