For Friends

Your phone buzzes and you see a text from your best friend: “I’m pregnant.”
Your heart races and your mind goes blank. What do you do next?

Start by listening.
It’s natural to want to jump in with advice or suggestions on what she should do, but the most important thing is to listen first. Let her express her feelings and share her thoughts without interruption. You can offer guidance later when she’s ready.

Support her in talking to the important people in her life.
She may need help when it comes time to talk to her parents, the baby’s father, or other family members. Offer to sit with her while she shares the news. Knowing she has someone by her side can make all the difference.

Learn about local pregnancy centers.
There are many resources available to her, and you can even accompany her to an appointment. Find pregnancy centers near you at OptionLine.org to explore the support options available.

What NOT to do:

• Don’t shame her.
  She might already be feeling overwhelmed, guilty, or embarrassed. The last thing she needs is to feel judged by her best friend. Be her safe space. Focus on finding solutions, not problems.

• Don’t pressure her.
  You may have your own thoughts on what she should do, but remember, it’s her decision. Make sure she knows you’re standing by her no matter what she chooses.

• Don’t disappear.
  No matter her relationship with the baby’s father, she is likely feeling isolated right now. The last thing she needs is for her best friend to pull away.

Need more support or have questions?
We’re here for you. Don’t hesitate to reach out if you need help or have any questions.